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![Yearning, Longing, Pining, Craving, Wishing, Aching: I Want Him (or Her) Back](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/ea652d_125f8e54c65a4cbbbe58b3fa8d59ba69~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_514,h_386,fp_0.50_0.50,q_95,enc_auto/ea652d_125f8e54c65a4cbbbe58b3fa8d59ba69~mv2.webp)
Oct 27, 20240 min read
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![Grief: It's more than Just Boo-hooing](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1c1503_63bc8868c78a4aa69e05110057d99b4d~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_514,h_386,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/1c1503_63bc8868c78a4aa69e05110057d99b4d~mv2.webp)
Dec 19, 20233 min read
Grief: It's more than Just Boo-hooing
Grief: It’s More Than Just Boo-hooing Bob Baugher, Ph.D. www.bobbaugher.com We see it all the time, especially in movies: Someone has...
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Dec 18, 20233 min read
How to Disentangle the Pain of Your Loss from the Memories of Your Loved One
Bob Baugher, Ph.D. www.bobbaugher.com When your loved one died, grief grabbe d hold of you. For a time you believed that the tight grip...
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Dec 17, 20234 min read
Your Loved One Died. Are You Angry With Them?
Anger at the Person Who Died Bob Baugher, Ph.D. www.bobbaugher.com Newly bereaved people often report being ticked off at the world. ...
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Dec 17, 20234 min read
My Loved One Died and I'm Angry at Myself
My Loved One Died and I’m Angry at Myself Excerpt from the book Coping with Anger During Bereavement By Bob Baugher, Carol Hankins, &...
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Aug 15, 20223 min read
Forgiving that Person: Or Not
Forgiving That Person—Or Not: Your Personal Decision Bob Baugher www.bobbaugher.com You saw this title and thought you would read this...
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Aug 15, 20222 min read
If Guilt Could Talk, What Would He Say?
If Guilt Could Talk to You Bob Baugher, Ph.D. Hi, The big G here. I’ve been living with you for quite some time now. I’ve settled into...
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Aug 15, 20223 min read
Self-Pity: It's Not Such a Bad Thing
Self-pity—It’s Not Such a Bad Thing Bob Baugher, Ph.D. www.bobbaugher.com As you well-know, “pity” is a word that often carries a...
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Aug 23, 20205 min read
Why We Cry and Why Some of Us Can’t
I’ve studied what the experts have said about the crying process. Here are my thoughts on crying. See if any of this rings true with you.
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Jul 28, 20206 min read
To Cry or Not to Cry: That is the Question
Are you a crier? Do your eyes begin to water when the Bambi movie first begins? And by the time Bambi's mother dies, is there a puddle of t
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Jul 21, 20204 min read
Ending Your Life: Sometimes You Want to—But, Don’t
Do something that will save your life—even if you don’t feel like it. It’s what your loved one would want for you, isn’t it?
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Jul 21, 20205 min read
Response to a Letter from a Woman Asking: Why Can’t I Cry?
Why can’t I cry? I start to and then I won’t let myself. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!!!?
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Jul 21, 20205 min read
Guilt—It’s What Our Brain Does
After your loved one died, did you find yourself saying things such as: I should’ve, I shouldn’t have, If only, I wish I would’ve, or why di
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Jul 21, 20206 min read
Dip into Denial
our brain’s inability to grasp the horror of what has actually happened in our life. In this article we’ll look at what’s good and not so g
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Jul 21, 20203 min read
The Death of My Father: The Guilt That Persists
felt an emotion begin to well up inside of me: Guilt. Yes, I was guilty. Of what? Of not being there when my father took his last breath.
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Jul 21, 20208 min read
Bereaved Parents Coping with Hatred: Their Stories
Hatred is similar to other emotions such as love, fear, anger, and happiness in that it has dimensions to it
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