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Dec 19, 20233 min read
Grief and your critical self
Grief and Your Critical Self Bob Baugher, Ph.D. www.bobbaugher.com Most experts on human behavior a gree that just about all of us have a...
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Dec 18, 20233 min read
He Just died, but is he still somewhat aware?
He Just Died, But Is He Still Somewhat Aware? Bob Baugher, Ph.D. www.bobbaugher.com You are at his deathbed and watch in awe as his...
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Aug 15, 20223 min read
How Can We Measure the Pain of Grief?
A Beginning Attempt to Measure the Pain of Grief Using the Mcgill Pain Inventory Bob Baugher, Ph.D. www.bobbaugher.com Several years ago,...
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Aug 15, 20224 min read
Why Your Brain Cannot Truly Accept That Your Loved One Can Die
Why Your Brain Cannot Truly Accept that Your Other Loved Ones Can Also Die Bob Baugher, Ph.D. Highline College www.bobbaugher.com You...
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Aug 15, 20223 min read
Grief and Smell: A Strange Combination
Grief and Smell Dr. Bob Baugher www.bobbaugher.com So, you saw this title and thought, “What does grief have to do with smell?” Well,...
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Sep 19, 20215 min read
He said to me: “I Tried to Put it Behind Me” I Thought: “Can People Really Do That?”
Bob Baugher, Ph.D. A man wrote me a while back telling me the story you are about to read. He gave me permission to share it if I omit...
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Sep 19, 20214 min read
What Do Ego Defense Mechanisms Have to Do with Grief?
What are Ego Defense Mechanisms anyway? If you took a Psychology class, you studied them. They were first introduced by Freud more than...
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Jul 21, 20207 min read
Everything Happens for a Reason—Doesn’t It?
Everything happens for a reason. We hear it all the time. I have been hearing it for years from my Psychology students.
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Jul 21, 20207 min read
Your Secret Grief
So, this title caught your eye? Perhaps you saw it earlier but wanted to read it in secret.
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Jul 21, 20205 min read
Your Brain—It’s Doing the Best It Can
As you read this article, your brain is trying to make sense of what these words are saying to you. Your brain is seeking meaning.
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Jul 21, 20205 min read
What Does It Mean to Fear Dying and Death?
You hear it all the time: We humans fear dying and death. “I’m afraid.” “Death scares me.”
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Jul 21, 20206 min read
What Does it Mean to “Deal with it”?
We hear it all the time, “She’s not dealing with her father’s death.” “I’m trying to deal with this loss.” “They’ll be dealing with this tra
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Jul 21, 20203 min read
Trying to Make Sense of a Tragedy by Using the Just World Hypothesis
When a disturbing, senseless event takes place, our brain demands to know why. In our attempt to answer the question we have a choice
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Jul 21, 20203 min read
Six Tricks Your Brain Plays on You During Grief
Why would your brain trick you, especially at a time when you need it most? Because it’s not perfect.
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Jul 21, 20204 min read
A Pill for Your Grief: A Drug to Ease Bad Memories: Would You Take It?
It’s here. Not quite available to us all, but someday it will be and you will be faced with the decision: to take it and reduce the effect o
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Jul 21, 20206 min read
Pain: How Much Can You Take?
As a college instructor I teach my students that one way to understand behavior is to think about our brain as having two major functions..
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Jul 21, 20202 min read
How Our Brain Tries to Manage the Pain of Grief
It’s a fact of which you are quite aware: Your brain does not like pain and discomfort. When pain comes into our lives, our brain immedia...
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Jul 21, 20204 min read
Why Am I So Quick to Judge? The Answer: Brain Pain Relief
Many people react almost instinctively to reduce their own pain caused by the empathy they feel as they listen to the story of the tragic...
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Jul 15, 20205 min read
The Unexplained Death of a Child: Our Brain is Doing the Best It Can
within seconds of learning of their child’s death, the parents’ brain has requested—no demanded--- to begin to know why? Why? WHY?
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